The loss of libido (sex drive) or inhibited sexual lust is a common problem that affects one in five men, and at least double that many women – at some point in their life.
Most of the time, this is not a constant feeling and can vary over time. But, when do you know if you're experiencing it
Decrease in sexual desire usually doesn't happen suddenly. It's not like having a fever or catching a cold. It can be a gradual process. Frequency of sexual activity is not the best measure of sexual interest, although it's not easy to define precisely — it can be measured by the lack of sexual interest for several months — according to Laumann
• Touching only happens in the bedroom.
• Sex does not give you feelings of connection and sharing.
• You have no interest in initiating sex or you feel pressured when your partner is initiating it.
One might think, how does this occur? Lack of sexual desire can be of various reasons. It is often linked to professional and personal stress. Sometimes, it can be because of an important life-changing event such as pregnancy, childbirth, or breastfeeding.
Most people would not prefer to talk about it; neither do their partners. You would often choose to wait and think that the desire will come back by itself, this is rarely a good solution.
As your therapist, I will guide you in the process of understanding the causes and finding the suitable ways of dealing with it.